So far, attachments have been created to people and things that aren’t really needs. Instead of seeing reality as it is, we form dependencies to justify our choice of short-term pleasure, long-term pain cycle. We then judge, self, life, and others so we feel okay, forming strong group identities through comparisons to support our judgments and separations.
The fifth dark arrow we pull from the quiver is Expectations. At this point, we are caught in delusions because we fade back to the past reliving all the past needs that were not met. Or, we project into the future with how our future needs will not be met either. With so much time and energy spent in the past and future, we miss out of all the beauty that is happening right now, in the present moment.
When do your expectations keep you choosing pain instead of pleasure?
When something happens, we choose our response. This choice becomes our action and colors our perception of what continues to happen. When we are at the effect of our own internal pretender voices or pretense, other people, time, space, life in general, we step into our karma circle, chasing our tails round and round like a fox.
In this Circle of Foxes, the first arrow that is selected is Attachments. This choice is based on strong needs that are out of balance and often motivated by ignorance. We have basic reality needs such as are food and water, tools and skills, shelter and clothing, healing and knowledge, free will and orgasticness, without which we will truly suffer. Attachment, as an out of balance need, is the moment of choosing long-term pain for the sake of short-term pleasure.
Think of the moments you choose long-term pain for short-term pleasure… Are you attached to your cup of coffee in the morning or maybe a drink after work? Do you look at your phone before you are even awake and are out of bed in the morning? Maybe your cupboards or refrigerator have to be arranged just so. Maybe it’s the co-dependent relationship or possibly an addictive substance. How do you create long-term pain in your life by choosing ATTACHMENTS?