7 Arrows – Dark Arrow of Expectations

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So far, attachments have been created to people and things that aren’t really needs.  Instead of seeing reality as it is, we form dependencies to justify our choice of short-term pleasure, long-term pain cycle.  We then judge, self, life, and others so we feel okay, forming strong group identities through comparisons to support our judgments and separations.

The fifth dark arrow we pull from the quiver is Expectations.  At this point, we are caught in delusions because we fade back to the past reliving all the past needs that were not met.  Or, we project into the future with how our future needs will not be met either.  With so much time and energy spent in the past and future, we miss out of all the beauty that is happening right now, in the present moment.

When do your expectations keep you choosing pain instead of pleasure?

7 Arrows – Dark Arrow of Dependency

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When something happens, we choose our response. This choice becomes our action and colors our perception of what continues to happen. Each group of Arrows, whether Dark, Light or Rainbow build on one another.  The second arrow cannot be picked up without first picking up the first arrow.  By the time, we pick up the seventh arrow, the previous six arrows are all at work.

Looking back to the first dark arrow, once our basic reality needs are met and we still claim to NEED something or someone, we opt for pain rather than pleasure, shooting the dark arrow of attachment from our quiver.

Opting for pain rather than pleasure are the choice points that signal a necessary death experience, for example, death of a pattern that is no longer working. These are the emotional shock points necessary for maturation to occur.  Recognizing emotional shock points for what they are, we re-interpret what we claim to need as WANTS.

If we stay at the effect and in reaction, choosing pain over pleasure, the second arrow we pick up within the Circle of Foxes is Dependencies.  Picking up this arrow keeps us from maturing and gets us caught in the adaptive triangle of Persecutor, Victim, Rescuer.

A good example of this is addictions.  In our imbalanced, immature state, we choose long-term pain and create short-term pleasure through using addictive substances, becoming attached to the initial “high” as a NEED.  We know deep inside that we don’t need the addictive substance.  And yet, we still WANT to re-experience the initial state of short-term pleasure again and again, thus creating dependencies on the addictive substances.  Picking up this dark arrow, we become the victim to the substance, whether its food, tobacco, alcohol, drugs, gambling, work, or co-dependent relationships, to name a few.  The substance can also be perceived as the “rescuer,” numbing the emotional pain or stress temporarily.  And ultimately, the substance also becomes our “persecutor”, causing affliction, sickness, disease, and sometimes even death.

Can you think of instances in your life when you initially became attached to a perceived NEED?  Or the moment when you realized this was not actually a NEED, but instead of letting the pattern of pain die, you redefined the NEED into a WANT and kept the pattern of pain going?

7 Arrows – Dark Arrow of Attachment

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When something happens, we choose our response. This choice becomes our action and colors our perception of what continues to happen. When we are at the effect of our own internal pretender voices or pretense, other people, time, space, life in general, we step into our karma circle, chasing our tails round and round like a fox.

In this Circle of Foxes, the first arrow that is selected is Attachments.  This choice is based on strong needs that are out of balance and often motivated by ignorance.  We have basic reality needs such as are food and water, tools and skills, shelter and clothing, healing and knowledge, free will and orgasticness, without which we will truly suffer. Attachment, as an out of balance need, is the moment of choosing long-term pain for the sake of short-term pleasure.

Think of the moments you choose long-term pain for short-term pleasure…  Are you attached to your cup of coffee in the morning or maybe a drink after work? Do you look at your phone before you are even awake and are out of bed in the morning? Maybe your cupboards or refrigerator have to be arranged just so. Maybe it’s the co-dependent relationship or possibly an addictive substance.  How do you create long-term pain in your life by choosing ATTACHMENTS?