7 Arrows – Light Arrow of Self-Love

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Did you know that no matter what we do, how we act, or what we say, there are five human responses to any action?   Some people are going to love us, some will hate us, others may like or dislike us, and some are going not going to even care (be in neutrality).  When we base our actions on trying to obtain a like or love response, we pick up the dark arrow of expectations.

To break this dark arrow, all we have to do is pick up the Light Arrow of Self-Love.  When we love ourselves, we develop self-confidence in who we are, what we do, and what we say to the extent that any response we receive from others will not initiate our pretender voices, disrupt our balance, or propel us to pick up the dark arrows again.  With Self-Love, we develop and maintain a strong commander voice that reminds us of our beauty, strength, wisdom, shining, and all our other amazing aspects!

7 Arrows – Dark Arrow of Expectations

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So far, attachments have been created to people and things that aren’t really needs.  Instead of seeing reality as it is, we form dependencies to justify our choice of short-term pleasure, long-term pain cycle.  We then judge, self, life, and others so we feel okay, forming strong group identities through comparisons to support our judgments and separations.

The fifth dark arrow we pull from the quiver is Expectations.  At this point, we are caught in delusions because we fade back to the past reliving all the past needs that were not met.  Or, we project into the future with how our future needs will not be met either.  With so much time and energy spent in the past and future, we miss out of all the beauty that is happening right now, in the present moment.

When do your expectations keep you choosing pain instead of pleasure?