Needy Child vs Self-Actualization

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Picking up the 6th dark arrow means we have already picked up the 1st dark arrow of attachments, the 2nd dark arrow of dependencies, the 3rd dark arrow of judgements, the 4th dark arrow of comparisons, and the 5th dark arrow of Expectations. We have created needs that are not based in reality, becoming dependent on them for short-term pleasure and long-term pain. We judge our self, life and others so we feel okay, and have found others that are “like” us so we can put down those who are “not like” us. Our delusions about these non-existent “needs” place us in the center of expectations, reliving the past and all of the other “needs” that were not met and projecting to the future, convinced that those needs will not be met either. Sounds pretty bleak!

The 6th arrow on this dark side is the Needy Child Syndrome.  This is the absolute need for love, recognition, acceptance, security, and support from others as a way to define and identify our self.  This is the place where we are constantly looking outside ourselves to feel okay.  This is acceptable as a child who cannot meet their own needs.  But as adults, it becomes total self-indulgence.

The 6th Light Arrow is Self-Actualization.  When we choose this arrow from our quiver, we say yes to a new concept of self-respect.  We become successful because we are having fun and finding pleasure doing exactly what we want, our heart’s desire.  We dream big and bring them to reality through our Self-Actualization!

By choosing the 6th light arrow of self-actualization, we are able to break the needy child syndrome dark arrow.  Our identity is no longer dependent on an absolute need for love, recognition, acceptance, security and support from others as a way to define ourselves.  Choosing pleasure, having fun, doing what we enjoy, and being successful provides us with a concept of self-respect.  We discern and put energy into desires and actions, behaviors and thoughts that bring us pleasure, knowledge, and moments that transcend time.  We feel, sense and know our interconnectedness to all of life.

All life consists and emanates Chuluaqui-Quodoushka energy, the perfect balance of female-male energy, the inhalation and exhalation.  Through the use of this energy in our everyday life, we gain Total and Full Balance of Energy.  Our spiritual-sexual eros, that is our desire to live, expresses itself.

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