Judgments vs Self-Acceptance

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Looking back to the first dark arrow, when we claim to NEED something or someone once our basic reality needs are met, we opt for pain rather than pleasure, shooting the dark arrow of Attachment. Staying at the effect and in reaction, choosing pain over pleasure, the second arrow we pick up is Dependencies.

Judgments is the third dark arrow. These are the moments when our ego puts others down in order to feel okay, creating strong separation.  Our ego self-importance judges others so we can feel bigger, better, stronger or more than those around us.  There are also times when feel smaller, weaker, worse or less than.  We turn the judgment on ourselves, immersing ourselves in self-pity.

Where are the moments when these first three arrows of attachments, dependencies, and judgments appear in your life?  Are there specific situations?  Can you identify the feelings or thoughts that are present just moments before picking up these arrows?

Remember, similar to the dark arrows, picking up the light arrows build on each other.  We cannot pick up the second arrow without picking up the first one.  And by the time we pick up the seventh Light arrow, we have picked up the other six before it.

The 3rd Light Arrow, which builds on having self-awareness and self-appreciation, is Self-Acceptance.  Choosing Self-Acceptance opens the door for our self-esteem to grow.  It allows us to ask ourselves at any moment or in any situation whether we did or are doing the best we can do based on what we knew/know.

Remember the 3rd dark arrow is judgments.  Often times we look backwards in time and judge our behavior or performance based on what we now know.   Or we judge and put others down so we can feel better.

Knowing deep within yourself that you have done the best you could, given what you knew at the time, provides a moment to take a deep breath, silence the internal pretender voices, and break the pattern of judging self, life, and others.

Self-acceptance, the 3rd Light Arrow, supports us in connecting to our self-worth and value, which then breaks the strong separation the 3rd dark arrow of judgments causes.  Through the Give-Away of our beauty to self, life and others without qualifications, we gain Trust and Innocence.

Trust is knowing there is an absolute interconnection and interreliability between one form of one thing and all forms of all things.  Trust us also knowing there is something greater than we are or that we know.  Innocence is being within the center of your own essence, standing in the center of our own circle of power, and simply being who we are fully alive in our senses. Trust and Innocence are the bottom two points of a triangle that has Perfection (walking your talk) at its apex.

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