So far, attachments have been created to people and things that aren’t really needs. Instead of seeing reality as it is, we form dependencies to justify our choice of short-term pleasure, long-term pain cycle. We then judge, self, life, and others so we feel okay, forming strong group identities through comparisons to support our judgments and separations.
The fifth dark arrow we pull from the quiver is Expectations. At this point, we are caught in delusions because we fade back to the past reliving all the past needs that were not met. Or, we project into the future with how our future needs will not be met either. With so much time and energy spent in the past and future, we miss out of all the beauty that is happening right now, in the present moment.
When do your expectations keep you choosing pain instead of pleasure?