Looking back to the first dark arrow, when we claim to NEED something or someone once our basic reality needs are met, we opt for pain rather than pleasure, shooting the dark arrow of Attachment. Staying at the effect and in reaction, choosing pain over pleasure, the second arrow we pick up is Dependencies.
Judgements is the third dark arrow. These are the moments when our ego puts others down in order to feel okay, creating strong separation. Our ego self-importance judges others so we can feel bigger, better, stronger or more than those around us. There are also times when feel smaller, weaker, worse or less than. We turn the judgment on ourselves, immersing ourselves in self-pity.
Where are the moments when these first three arrows of attachments, dependencies, and judgments appear in your life? Are there specific situations? Can you identify the feelings or thoughts that are present just moments before picking up these arrows?